This is an exercise to show how the world is a reflection of you. We sometimes see the world not as it is, but as we are. To see people as they really are, reduce your opinions and projections and look with fresh eyes, unobstructed by past events. A hint: If you feel compassion or appreciation, you are closer to seeing people as they really are and less into projecting.
Step 1: Write down the names of a few people you like or are attracted to.
Step 2: Write down what qualities make these people likable or attractive.
Step 3: Write down how these traits remind you of qualities within yourself.
Step 4: Write down the names of a few people you dislike or are not attracted to.
Step 5: Write down the qualities that make these people unlikable or unattractive.
Step 6: Write down how these traits remind you of qualities within yourself.
These are the easy steps, but if you wish to take this exercise into an even deeper experience, continue with the following:
Step 7: Have others in your circle of friends or family do the same exercise so that you can compare your projections to theirs.
Step 8: Tell a few people what you like about them and how these items remind you of things within yourself.
Step 9: Tell a few people what you dislike about them and how these items remind you of things within yourself.
Step 10: Write down what you learned about yourself and your beliefs. Examine whether you were honest and if not, what kept you from being entirely honest.
If you stay open to it, you may learn some surprising things both about yourself and why you have attracted certain people into your life and business. Both the things you resist and the things you appreciate, you attract into your life.
(Note to Seminar-Facilitators: This exercise is very powerful in group-training scenarios of more than 10 people. Yes, it takes some courage to conduct it).