The Biggest Secret in the Universe
Success is so easy, its almost comical
How a BMW Z4 was manifested without paying for it
Authentic Flirting and Dating
The Hidden Roots of Success
Do Houses Have Consciousness?
How Energy is Gained at Different Levels of Consciousness
Fake Glamour vs. Peak Experiences
Conspiracy Theories and Levels of Consciousness
The Lifecycle of Civilizations
The Power of Self-Sufficiency
The Three Types of People
How permanent ideal body weight was manifested
How to succeed at running a restaurant
The Power of Definitive Communication
Kindness - The Underestimated Power
How to Overcome Screen Addiction
Let Go of Waiting
Do you really think Google is Free?
Just Say No to Gossip
Whatever happens to you in life, is there to help you experience more Love.Grasp this and you understand all else. What follows is why this must be true and how you can use this wisdom to change anything. Have you ever noticed losing interest in a project after a few achievements? And have you ever become careless about money after getting a lot? And have you ever begun losing romance after "getting" him or her? And have you ever noticed treating people you already know worse than new people? And have you ever noticed companies that become bigger, stop caring about their customers? These patterns of decline are very common in society. Decline-of-Love-after-Success is the main cause of decreased health, happiness and wealth. Spiritual Law is that you will experience in life whatever helps you experience more love. So if abundance causes you to experience less care or interest, then abundance will be taken away from you again. Why? Because the Universe conspires for you to experience more Love. And this is how most peoples finances, health, happiness, etc. go up and down over the decades. They don't care, so it all goes down. So they start caring again, by necessity, and it all goes back up. Then they are well-off again, become complacent, and it all goes down. Then they wake up and become attentive again and it goes back up. If only losing money, health, relationships or happiness makes you more aware and loving, you can be sure that you will keep losing them. It means that the only way to make you more loving and aware is to take something away from you. Would you like to break through this pattern and become healthier, wealthier and wiser than ever before? Then let improved situations cause you to become even more loving, interested and attentive. Let success inspire you to become even better. When abundance makes you a more loving human being or helps you maintain interest in your friends, family, customers, etc. more abundance will come to you. If there is any area of lack in your life, look for a lack of care toward yourself or others and correct yourself. Does this remind you of parent-child relationships? That's because our relation to the Universe is similar to that of a child to its Parents. We like to spoil our children with unlimited generosity. But if this causes them to become spoiled and unkind and it seems like the only way to make them caring, respectful and aware again lies in no longer spoiling them, we intentionally throttle the flow of abundance in their direction. "But this can't be true, Fred. What about all the rich, famous, healthy, happy people who are unkind and outright nasty?" Their riches are temporary and their happiness an illusion. If you think these "outright nasty" people are happy, healthy or wealthy you are seeing only a snapshot of rather than the whole movie. Or they are creating a public perception of their supposed abundance (abundance = rich AND happy, not only rich) and hide their suffering. I have met a lot of people from all walks of life over the last 40 years and it's been easy to see where abundance is authentic and stable (coming from love) or temporary or at the expense of health (coming from trickery). And then there are some very kind and loving human beings that are mistakenly viewed as evil by the public. In spite of appearances, there is no "nasty" person who is at the same time abundant. This false assumption is rooted in conspiracy-theory which itself is rooted in the paradigm that the Universe is an evil place that rewards evil. To get a bigger picture of this, look at peoples lives when they are older. Above the age of 70 they draw closer to the end of the movie-of-their-life and their conduct throughout life becomes more visible. Loving conduct guarantees long-term happiness, health and success. Unloving conduct will eventually catch up with you and leave you lonely, poor or sick in old age (but even then its never too late to turn it all around). Is it controversial to suggest that people end up where they are, primarily through their own choices in life rather than being victims of uncontrollable circumstances? Then I'll soften this stance a little by adding that many people are not entirely conscious of the process. I make such statements not with the aim to judge or condemn people who are suffering, but rather with the aim to help, so that they may become more conscious of nightmares of their own making. Another way to get the idea is by looking at people whose success-stories have spanned across their whole lifetime vs. people whose fortune was short-lived. The difference between "one hit wonders" and those of a lifetime legacy is that their fortunes did not fundamentally change who they were inside. They never gave up their creativity or love, did not sell out or compromise their dignity and honesty. Fortunes come and go so easily. But it stays with those who stay true to themselves. And being true to yourself means living from Love. No doubt, we all experience our share of trouble and challenge. But if you take the challenge as an opportunity to grow in awareness and love, the trouble is short-lived. If the Universe is a friendly place, how could it be any different? The only it could be untrue, is if the Universe were a mean place. Honestly: How long do you think nasty and unloving behavior will be rewarded by others? Eventually the unloving will Fall. This fact is evidence that the Universe is generally built as a Just and Fair, self-correcting system. If it were not so, we would all be extinct by now. If the Universe were an Evil place, then the mean-spirited would reap the greatest rewards. There do appear to be some realms of consciousness where the most evil person has the most power. In these places, victory belongs to the violent. But such parallel realities of drug-cartels, mafia gangs and tribal wars are not the majority at Planet Earths current Level of Energy. And their lives are not filled with joy and end just as violently (live by the sword, die by the sword). If you wish to live in the friendly version of the Universe, follow the rules of the friendly Universe by believing that friendliness is rewarded. Reject philosophies and ideologies that imply that riches and accomplishments require force, cheating, trickery and lies. Such Beliefs have their basis in the unfriendly-Universe philosophy. The conspiracy-theorist lives in this dark reverse-universe in which the most abundant people are the most evil. Those stuck in victim-consciousness insist that their experience in life has absolutely nothing to do with their own vibration, choices, thoughts, words and actions. But there is a world in which Love turns into Riches of all kinds. I and many others already live in that world and have been living here for a long time. I have known this for 30 years now and it has always guided and helped me without fail. "But Fred, they say that Money is the Root of All Evil. I have internalized this Belief. Now you are telling me to Love Money. It will take some time for me to let go of that old belief system because it seems so true!" First of all, the saying does not go "Money is the Root of All Evil". The exact saying goes "Love of Money is the root of All Evil". Secondly, its not some unknown "they" that say this, its a phrase from the Bible. Thirdly, I am not saying to "Love Money". I said "Love causes Money". Big difference. "Love" could be the Love of People, the Love of your Craft, the Love to your Customers, the Love toward your Children, the Love toward your partner. In fact, the saying 'Love of Money is the root of all Evil' fits to what I am saying here. Making an external thing ('Money') more important than the feeling and act of Love is not only at the root of Evil, it is also at the root of bad health, exhaustion, angry relationships and poverty.
Whatever happens to you in life is there to help you experience more Love.I've met my share of people who have been seriously ill. As they became more loving, their health improved. But many, after their health improved, unfortunately went right back to being unkind, uncaring, unaware. So what happens? They fall ill again. The lesson was not learned. Bad things happen until the lesson is learned. The lesson to learn in Life is always the same: Love. Everything is a lesson in Love. But if you stay aware, you no longer need lessons just like an innocent person requires no punishment, an awake person requires no wake up call, a well-intended person requires no guilt, and a person on a loving path requires no course correction. "But Fred, love is not always the answer. I tried sending love to my Boss, who has really been treating me badly. And he hasnt changed. He still shouts and threatens us every day. Sometimes he physically assaults us". In this case, Self-Respect (which is another form of Love) is the answer. Do you respect yourself enough not to put up with that and leave the job? "But Fred, if I leave the job, I'll be out of money" On the contrary. Without Love (here in the form of self-respect), you will run out of money, happiness and health. And does it get anymore unloving than to think you are unable to get a better job and have to put up with mistreatment just for a couple of Dollars?" The worldview shared in this article is not common. The objections to it are numerous. But once the philosophy of a Loving and Love-Rewarding Universe is embraced, most doubts subside and peace and prosperity is what you Become. From that time onward, you no longer need negative events to awaken you.
Whatever happens to you in life is there to help you experience more Love and Awareness.
You could plant two seeds, right beside each other, in the very same ground. One seed grows into a beautiful Rose. The other seed grows into a poisonous plant. Both seeds were planted in the same circumstances. Both grew without effort. But the results are entirely different.The Art of Reality Creation is to hold a desired final-result in mind, regardless of the circumstances and actions. The only real work required is the shedding and dropping of thoughts that do not align with the intended goal. Doing so will actually save you a lot of external work. Let me put this idea of "less effort, more results" in another way:
Some people have been commenting on how my appearance has changed within the last year. So allow me to share the tale of how I dropped 20 pounds (10 Kilos) within just 8 weeks and made the change permanent to last the entire year and beyond.
At the end of 2016 I was doing a Seminar in Bahrain. The organizer of that Seminar was filming me. When I saw the footage I was surprised at how fat I looked. I had been entirely unaware of it. The unawareness bothered me more than the chubbiness.
Shortly thereafter, back home, I was coaching an overweight lady. As we sat across from each other she said:
"You are coaching me on weight loss, but you are a little chubby yourself"
"Its not my goal" I said dismissively.
"But you yourself write that we should only take advice from people who have achieved what we want" she challenged me.
She's right. As a reality-creation-coach, I should be able to manifest that. So I said:
"I"ll drop 10 Kilos within the next 8 weeks. And then I'll tell you how I did it".
"But you will use the Parallel Universe Technique only, right?"
"No. Why limit myself to one method? All change is in thought-word-deed or spiritual, mental and physical. I will use whatever gets me there the most quickly".
I in fact used several methods. That does not mean YOU have to use these methods. You use whatever works for YOU. The primary importance is never the method, its keeping your mind fixed on the desired final outcome.
She agreed to lose weight at the same time. The goal was optimistic but still felt realistic. A common principle of reality creation is to aim neither too high (creating unneeded pressure) nor too low (creating lack of inspiration).
By Synchronicity, at around the same time, a reality-creation-student of mine, Mark, who works as a Cosmopolitan Lean Lifestyle Coach, as he puts it (which includes Minimalism, Lean Management, weight loss, decluttering etc. He can be reached at firstname.lastname@example.org for those interested in being coached by him) commented on my overweight and offered some help. So I agreed to follow his advice for a month.
I recorded a guided Meditation for myself that assisted me in imagining myself slim or "already being in the parallel universe of the wish fulfilled". To prime my subconscious, I listened to it every day in the first week and then let go.
I corresponded with Coach Mark for a month. He sent me a number of emails detailing what foods to do without for a while (carbs and sugars), what type of exercises to do at the Gym and even more obscure tips such as taking cold showers, replacing snacks with nuts, Early Dinner and Late Breakfast (doing without food for 16 hours), etc.
For the first 3 weeks I went to the Gym for an hour every single day. Then every second day. Now I go once a week. In addition, I've been playing tennis twice to three times a week and going Snowboarding sporadically.
I followed the coaches and recommendations strictly for 8 weeks. During that time I made it a habit to have 3 meals a day rather than skipping them. I also made it a fixed habit never to eat after 6 pm, after which digestion winds down. I had cut out all sugars, greatly reduced pasta, potatoes, soda, rice and bread and instead had mostly eggs, meat, chicken, lettuce, salad, plain yogurt and similar. The good thing about this is that I never felt hungry, I ate all I wanted. I also drank 3 large bottles of water every day.
Thus I lost 10 kg within the intended time-period, even though the building of muscle might have added some weight. That was quite impressive.
The problem with all of this?
It took too much effort and didn't feel permanent. I had done similar crash programs throughout my life to cut down large chunks of body fat. But it didn't last. As soon as I stopped monitoring myself or got busy with other stuff, the overweight would creep back in, following an invisible template of my subconscious.
Fortunately, one year later, I have not only maintained the weight but reduced it even more. In other words, I have found the "permanent solution", and that is what the rest of this article is dedicated too.
The lasting solution required a fundamental change in self-perception. Having lost all that weight in only 8 weeks, I still felt that it could easily come back and that it required way too much focus to maintain. I did not want to take cold showers, I did not want to permanently do without pasta and Sodas and Chocolate. I enjoyed those things. I did not want to have to do sports for many hours a day.
However...now that I was down to ideal weight and body shape, thanks to all the effort, it was much easier to re-program the subconscious and make things more effortless. While the beginnings took great discipline, the rest of the year was smooth and easy. I decided to find a permanent lifestyle that suits me and can be maintained for years and decades, not just for weeks. I decided to do sports for the sake of joy and physical movement, not "in order to lose weight". How much Gym is experienced by me as enjoyable? Once a day? No. Once a week feels good. How much tennis is enjoyable? The same as before...2 or 3 times a week. While certain foods remained reduced, I allowed for exceptions. I started going more by how I felt before, during and after eating, rather than by strict dieting rules. Do I actually feel like eating now? No. Then why did I just walk to the fridge? In this kind of awareness you would sometimes see me fill a bowl with snacks, go back to my desk...and then return all the snacks to their bags, because I didn't really feel like eating, I was merely following a habit. Do I feel full now? Then I can stop eating. How do I feel after eating this? Bloated? Then that food is not for me. Do I feel light and free afterwards? Then its good food.
Simple acts of awareness and feeling is what made the change permanent. Once in a while I renewed my visualization and enjoyment of my new physical self. And it is indeed now effortless and I know it will be so for life. The best effort invested is the effort in making things effortless.
Could I have gone this effortless path from the very beginning? Certainly. But in my view it is significantly easier to feel oneself as "ideal weight" and program that into your subconscious, during a time that you actually are ideal weight.
If you would like to make that permanent change, begin with the Decision that you are a different person from now on, no matter what it takes, and never look back.
Definitive Communication is: Clear, Unambiguous, Unwavering, Precise, Decisive.
Non-Definitive Communication is: Confusing, Uncertain, Wavering, Doubtful, Unreliable.A recent real-life example of definitive communication: A manager asks her staffers whether they can work the shifts on Thursday, Friday and Saturday. One responds: "I might be able to do Friday" Another responds: "I can do Thursday and Friday" A third responds: "I'd love to do all three days" Who got the jobs? Of course the third respondent. Her definitive communication is perceived by her customer (yes, a Boss is a customer!) as reliable. Words such as "Maybe", "Possibly", "I don't know", "Might" tend to instill doubt and uncertainty. In all communications with spouses, friends, bosses, business partners, they should be reduced. This much has been known for thousands of years, if you consider this ancient Verse:
"But let your communication be, Yea, yea; Nay, nay: for whatsoever is more than these cometh of evil". - Matthew 5:37But what if you can't make a clear commitment or give a definitive statement? Well, then the answer should be "No". It's either yes or no. I have been observing this "maybe" and "might" phenomenon for a while now and it's obvious to me that my energy-level is lowered when I am acting indecisive, reluctant, uncommitted. In fact, way back in my twenties, I lost quite a few Business opportunities due to my wavering and calculating. You know "calculating"...it's when you over-analyze perceived disadvantages of making a commitment. Having no definitive "Yes or No" on a topic, means that you do not know what you want. That, in turn, means that you do not know who you are and what your goals and values are. Consider a conversation like this: Husband: "So where should we go on vacation?" Wife: "I don't know. California Maybe?" Husband: "Yeah. Maybe. Or perhaps a trip to Europe?" Wife: "Yeah OK. But I've seen Europe already. I'd like to see Hawaii" Husband: "I might wanna see Japan some day" Wife: "Hmmm....Maybe". Neither of the two have any idea what they really want. There is no developed or dominant vibration or direction present. Hence, whatever reality they create, it is going to be something random. It will be decided by others. If you do not decide, someone with a more definitive mind, will decide for you. Unless, after some conversation, they arrive at a conclusion. Otherwise its open-ended energy or incomplete manifestation. The things you wish to manifest in your life, are actually already manifested the moment you make a firm decision or commitment toward them. They are manifest way before they show up in physical reality. But not everything is black and white. What about all the stuff you are not clear on yet? Stuff you can't possibly say yes or no to because you do not know yet? Well, that's fine. It means you are still in the process of finding clarity, of finding your true hearts desire. In that case, why do you have to say anything? Are you being pressured to decide? Then you can at least be definitive on that: "I don't want to make a decision now, I want to learn more". That's a NO for now. Any sort of "pressure to decide" is suspicious. We just don't like being coerced. Look first within, re-align with your highest values and visions. Or brainstorm a number of ideas and discard those that don't feel aligned with your Higher Self. If we are talking about a vacation, you could list a bunch of places and go yes or no on them. Example: Japan YES Hawaii YES California NO Europe NO Just from Intuition, that's what you feel is good for you. And your spouse could do the same: Japan NO Hawaii YES California NO Europe YES. So both have a "yes" on Hawaii and that's where they go. And what if there is no common "yes" on anything? Well, there are many options after that, but the worst option is to compromise your own definitive "yes" feeling and give in to something you don't really want. "Ok, Ok, we'll go to Europe...but next time we go where I want!" Can you see the future trouble being set up here? Spending an entire vacation that is unwanted is only going to cause frustration. If the attitude isn't right (the SEED), the trip won't go right. So one option would be to expand the list of options until one is found that both are YES on. Another option would be that something other (than a vacation) is done that both are YES on. And another option is that they go to their separate YES destinations (but if going alone is a NO, then that can be discarded too). And yet another option is that one of the spouses, through their creative communication skills, makes the trip attractive and appealing to the other, so that the NO turns into a YES. That's called the Art of Negotiation. And no, I am not saying that "Maybe" and "Might" should never be used. I'm saying their use should be reduced. The terms can be very useful in other contexts, such as in the deflation of negative events: "That was the worst thing that could happen to us!!!!" - "Well, Maybe" :-) In this example, I am using a "Maybe" to take out the sting of a hard "NO" statement. That's a positive use of "Maybe". If I am a negotiator who has the aim of turning a "NO" into a "YES", I will use the "Maybe" to soften the others "No". But in most contexts, I highly recommend reducing the tendency of being unclear and vague. Lawyers and Politicians are deliberately vague and it drives us crazy. Why can't I get a clear answer from that lawyer, politician or CEO? They use indefiniteness out of fear, calculating that in the future things might change and they'll be at a disadvantage if they make a clear statement now. Many Politicians use it to obfuscate and distort their real opinion as not to be judged by half the electorate. Either you are pregnant or not. You can't be a little pregnant or maybe pregnant. Either you want a relationship with him/her or you don't. Any wavering in a partner should be a warning-signal. And what if he/she wants an "open relationship"? Well, that's something that has to clearly be put on the table so that you have an opportunity to decide whether you want that or not. The importance and power of Clarity cannot be overstated. Lack of Clarity or Confusion is at the root of most conflicts and upsets. Apart from being clear, it is also recommended you request clarity from others. Have you been unclear about what your expected tasks are in the new company? Demand clarity from the Head of Department. Have you been unclear about how "the law of attraction" works? Request clarity from one of its many proponents. Have you been unclear on whether he wants to marry you or not? Request clarity. Are you afraid he'll say no? Well. his "No" today is much, much better than awakening years later realizing he was never committed. Are you unclear on which school to send your kids too? Then get clarity through visiting those schools. Either you are committed to reaching your goal or not. If you cannot give a definitive "yes" to a goal, there is little point in pursuing it. I've met students who can't decide on their career path. But the higher truth is that almost ANY career path teaches the skills of attention, will, creativity, responsibility, etc. Just choose one of the 100 options that feel more fun and discard one of the 10 000 options that don't feel fun. Decide. The Yes/No principle is what governs much of my life. Example: 90% of the emails I get are a quick "Yes or No" whether I will respond or not. 10% remain undecided "Maybes" so I let them sit for a day or two before I make my Yes or No. Letting something sit for a while, makes it clearer. I would be in trouble if 90% of my emails were "maybe". I wouldn't get much done while being torn back and forth on all kinds of minute details. People with guilt issues and money-fears are often the ones who have too many "maybes": "But if I take this job today, what if something better comes up in a week? I can't commit to this right now, just in case something better comes along???" Well, guess what: He will likely get neither of the jobs. Decision making leads to lessons both good and bad. But in the end you realize that all LESSONS are actually good, because you learned. Hence, those who fear making decisions are those who do not learn. And those who do not learn are those who don't succeed in the long run. None of this is to say that you cannot change your decision later on. You might commit to one thing and later it turns out it was the wrong thing. That's fine. The whole point of deciding and committing is to learn by trial and error what is and isn't good for you. Yes/No thinking helps you with Reality Creation in that it makes commitment a habit. And with commitment, anything can be achieved. People who are afraid to say "No" carry issues of approval-seeking. People who are afraid to say "Yes", are uncertain of what they want or afraid they might fail. One of the mechanisms in mass consciousness that undermines Yes/No thinking is in limiting the options, often as if there are only two options or even only two negative options to choose from: "Do you want criminals to steal from you and rape you, or do you want to always stay home after 8 pm?" "Do you want to pay high taxes by bankwire or by cheque?" As if these were the only options. Well, frankly, I want none of the above. I do not want to be raped while out at night and I do not want to stay home every night. Both are a NO. Going out at night to safe places is a YES. I do not want to pay high taxes, so thats a NO. Low-taxes is a YES. Here's a little exercise. List all the things you have a definitive YES to, whether they already exist in your life or you would like them to exist in your life. You are 100% certain that these are things you want and like in your reality: 1. 2. 3. 4. 5. (the list can be longer) And then list all the things you have a definitive NO to, whether they already exist in your life or you would like to remove them from your reality. You are 100% certain these are things to release, clear, dissolve or remove yourself from: 1. 2. 3. 4. 5. (the list can be longer) And now list all the things in your life or that you might have in your life, that you are "MAYBE" on. 1. 2. 3. 4. 5. (the list can be longer, but hopefully it is not) There you go...you just created the master-plan for the coming weeks and months. You know what you really do want to focus on and really no longer want to focus on. That's huge. It may include activities, habits, thoughts, people and places. So seek to remove the "NOs" and spend more time with the YES stuff. As for the MAYBES: See if you can transform them into definitive yes or no right now. A little hint: Most "Maybes" are actually a NO. Things that are really aligned with who you are, are mostly an easy YES (unless you are in a very low vibe state, from which it becomes difficult to ascertain whats good for you). If you cannot transfer some of the Maybes to a yes or no, seek to learn more about the subject until you can make a decision. The Result? You feel more Clear. Your energy-level is up. First get Clear, then get Focused.