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Why it’s empowering to talk less

Frederick Dodson

Frederick Dodson

“In the beginning was the word, and the word was with God, and the word was God”.

John 1:1

“All of our problems stem from our inability to sit quietly in a room alone”

Blaise Pascal

“Your word is your wand. The game of life is a boomerang. Our thoughts, words and deeds return to us sooner or later, with astounding accuracy”

Florence Scovel Shinn

“The internal dialogue is what grounds people in the daily world. The world is such and such and so and so only because we talk to ourselves about it being such and such and so and so”.

Carlos Castaneda


The life you experience, is a mirror of what you talked about. You have talked your life into existence. Your words are energy and creative power, and if you knew that, you would choose your verbal output more consciously. “In the beginning was the word, and the word was with the Creator and the word was the Creator”. 

Talking too much is disempowering because it’s creating too much. If you put too many images on a canvas, you do not manifest a clear picture and the space looks crowded. Put if you put only one image, one word on the canvas, it manifests clearly. If you could speak an intention, without following it with dozens of contradicting thoughts, it would manifest instantly. That’s what my 2008 book “The Reality Creation Technique” is about.

Too much input is an obstruction to word-power. At the hairdressers recently, I counted at least 10 sources of verbal input and imagery. There were two TVs running and also a radio playing music. There were six hairdressers, chatting away incessantly. It’s safe to say that not much is manifested in such an environment. Too many thoughts are accumulated, so no single thought can manifest. So many unrelated, random and disparate thoughts are spoken, then the word loses its manifesting power. And its a good thing we don’t have manifesting power in such a state, otherwise we’d manifest chaos. So not only negative thinking hinders manifestation, but also too much thinking.

As a Coach, my main job is to listen. Sometimes I’ll ask a question, not because I don’t know the answer, but to direct the persons attention to pertinent things. If I don’t say too much, the little that I say, will have more of an impact. If I were to talk all the time, none of what I say would be taken all that important.

Over-talking is one of the human weaknesses. In the past, I’ve had students who don’t stop talking unless asked to. If I were to just sit and observe quietly, they’d talk without interruption, hopping from topic to topic. Sometimes over-talking devolves into complaint. As a coach, I am in the Business of helping a person examine their thoughts. But if they talk too much, there is not much time left for thought-examination. It’s a cup of tea overflowing. The cup is full, but some keep pouring tea, without tasting, consuming or experiencing the tea already poured. It’s similar to continually eating, without digesting what was eaten. The reason some people talk and complain continually, is because they do not wish to feel. That’s because they are not doing what they prefer in life and do not wish to confront or feel that fact. And so they create, create, create and keep creating, much more than they can digest.

Some people talk about what they will do, some just do it. In fact, if someone talks too much about what they will do, chances are that they won’t. I’ve observed this many times. If you were going to do it, you wouldn’t have to talk about it that much.

You have two ears and one mouth, because listening should be double the amount of speaking. There are, in fact, four ways of dealing with words and talking is only one of them:

  1. Listening
  2. Reading
  3. Writing
  4. Talking

I recommend that you listen more than you speak and read more than you write. For every book I write, I read about 30. Before I speak for 10 minutes, I have listened for 30 minutes.

Question: If you have nothing good to say, why say anything at all? When you talk, don’t you wish it to be useful and uplifting. Putting your words to good use, means to inform, entertain, teach, charm. If you talk in a happy mood, your talk makes others happy. Such talk differs from the random chatter and gossip so many engage in. Negative ways of talking are mostly learned on TV and in Movies. While you grow up, you see people talking a certain way on screen and you think this is the way people talk. Then you imitate that way of talking and being. If you’ve ever caught yourself talking like some character on your favorite shows, you know this is true. Many movies feature much more talking than happens in real life, giving people the impression that it’s not “normal” or “ok” to be silent with people. But it’s entirely fine. There is energy and vibratory communication that is beyond words. It can be felt when two people are silent in the same room. When they are silent, their energies synchronize.

You see me talking a lot in Seminars and Videos. But in my private life, I don’t talk much. Often, I’ll talk out of politeness, because people think its “weird” if a person just sits there in silence. My talking less does not come from inhibition, it comes from a calm no-mind state. I know my words have creative power, so I aspire to use my voice wisely. The more calm your mind, the more easily your speech manifests. Therefore, the more deeply calm and authentic you become, the more you will want to choose words more consciously.




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