If you’re not IN IT, you can SEE IT

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Frederick Dodson

When you ate garlic others smell it but you don’t. If you ate garlic you’re also less likely to smell others who ate it. You’ve adapted and filtered perception of the strong smell.

The ticking of your friend’s clock is clearly audible to you. But your friend has gotten so used to it, they no longer consciously hear it.

100% of people no longer see the tip of their nose even though it’s right in front of their eyes. They’d have to consciously focus to see.

If you feel a pain in your toes and I punch you in the face you may no longer feel the pain in your toes because you’re distracted.

Sometimes we take friends or partners for granted because we’ve gotten used to them. It’s better to regularly


your view of people and things. As if seeing them for the first time. You’ll notice something different about them each time you look.

When I moved back to the USA, after 20 years abroad, I felt like a foreigner. I no longer thought, spoke, acted or even dressed like these people. Being now an outsider, I could more easily see the issues the country is facing.

I wasn’t IN IT so I could SEE IT.

When coaching, I easily see solutions for people because I am not immersed in their problems. Then they’re shocked at how easy the solution is. “How could I not see that?”. It’s because you were IN IT.

Sometimes you need an outside-view of yourself.

Could you imagine yourself sitting across from you? What’s that person like? What does that person need?
Some film or record themselves to gain an outside view. When another provides Feedback to you, try to stay humble. Maybe they see something you don’t.

Look at your work from the eyes of others. Let’s say you created a website. You think it’s so awesome but have you tried seeing it from other’s eyes? Maybe it’s not that great. You could do better.

Air out your house when you receive visitors. You’re used to your smell, but others aren’t. That not only applies to smells but to thoughts, attitudes, sounds, sights, behaviors, etc.

See if you can get into it and be IN IT (making it subconscious) or OUT OF IT (conscious) at will. My recent video titled “How to make a conscious thought subconscious” teaches you how to be IN IT and why that’s useful.

And here’s how to be OUT OF IT:

Imagine you’re viewing it (the behavior, the thought, the self, the issue, the event, etc.) from another person’s eyes.

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