There will come a stage in your spiritual development where being “nice guy” or “nice girl” no longer works. To keep going up, you’ll need to prioritize truth over appearances, public image, marketing, pretense,etc.
Sometimes truth is nice, sometimes it isn’t. Life is the perfect balance of nice and not-nice. Being nice-focused only let’s you learn 50% of life. Being truth focused gives you a full life, the 100%. 🎯
If you’re creative you can share the not-nice-truth in a nice and gentle way. That’s being a talented communicator. But express it you must. There are things you should have told that you didn’t because you wanted to “be nice” and “not rock the boat”. This keeps the peace, but it’s a cowards peace that doesn’t solve or get rid of the suppressed truth.
Suppressing something negative does not magically erase it. It lingers own, below the surface, waiting for an inopportune time to resurface. One day when you’re not keeping it down with tension, you try to relax, and there it is again – because it was pushed away instead of integrated. Suppression comes at the cost of the energy needed to keep it down.
In reality, being nice-minded is not that nice. Being truth-minded is the ultimate nice. You’re honest with yourself or someone else. That may not be nice but they know who you really are and what you really think. You grow because you expressed reality and they grow because they heard reality. And that’s truly NICE. Both sides may not like it, but being equipped with truth, their decisions will be a lot better.
If you were honest with yourself – what things and people do and don’t belong in your life? What would you stop doing and saying vs. start doing and saying? And once you’ve answered, take action.
As society shifts from being nice-minded to being truth-minded, our development will accelerate beyond your wildest dreams.
Your energy is not for everyone. But by being authentic you paradoxically become a perfect puzzle piece of the whole. It’s not that “being nice” for the sake of the whole helps you “fit in” and “make others feel comfortable”. That’s a misconception. Being authentic however, does have these effects. Maybe not at first, but in the long run.
That’s because each human being was created perfectly and to fit perfectly to everything else and live abundantly ever-after – unless that human being distorts him or herself.
