Reality Creation Coaching

2015-10-06T23:54:00.042+02:00

Hello, my name is Frederick Dodson, I am a life coach, author and teacher of higher States of Consciousness. For your success and enlightenment we offer vividly lucid books, audio-programs and articles (frequently updated below).

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10 Ways to Increase Willpower

2012-02-21T12:18:00.000+01:00

This is a summary of the article series on willpower. The more energy you have, the higher your influence on circumstances. Energy and Willpower are directly related. When you are exhausted, you have no willpower. Energy creates willpower, but exercising willpower also increases your overall state of energy. 10 ways you can increase your state and will are:

1. Do one thing at a time instead of scattering your attention

2. See difficulties not as an interruption of your way to a goal but as stepping stones on the path.

3. Do not suppress or express Emotions, instead allow them to come up and pass through.

4. When energy is depleted, meditate or take a short nap

5. Limit the intake of sugar, caffeine, nicotine, alcohol and carbs (after 6 oclock) by eating or doing other things instead.

6. Keep relaxation and work in Balance. If you work well, you can relax well. If you relax well, you can work well.

7. Willpower is like a muscle that can be trained if you "stretch yourself" and "go the extra mile".

8. Delay the gratification of impulses and desires for later, do not delay important works for later.

9. Focus on what is important and what you can control rather than what is unimportant or you cant control.

10. Only if you can first control yourself can you guide others.

See Also: Reality Creation Course

Are you God-like?

2012-02-21T08:45:00.003+01:00

"You are Gods; and all of you are children of the most High". Psalm 86:2

"I am God". Spoken as Ego/World-Self this is a statement of grandiose megalomania.. Spoken as Soul/Higher-Self it is a statement of self-realization. You are a miniature God, equipped with the same abilities as the Supreme Being. You have the ability to...

...start things
...change things
...stop things

You have the ability to make decisions. One decision leads to another and so on, which means you are creating your reality piece by piece. This process may have been going on for eons. Even if you cannot control 100% of your reality due to karmic influence, you can get hold of what you can control and create and start from there. As a coach I always recommend you start with things you can control, not with the far-out.

Ancient Tradition teaches the following scale of Consciousness:

The Infinite (God)
Pure Awareness (True Self)
Ego/Will (I am)
Identity/Mind (I am this/that)
The Senses

The Reality Creation Tools are designed to help you discover and later re-discover your part in creating your reality. Your influence over reality increases the higher you go on the scale.
Some people ask me about how to get the reality creation techniques to work better or how to get them to work at all. A better approach than getting the tools to work is to ask yourself whether the user of the tools is willing to change. How willing are you to change? If you are willing to change, the tools work.

I will try something unique here. I will try to help you get a sense of the state called Pure Awareness or Zero Point or Free Attention while reading this, so that by the time you are finished reading this article you will be closer to such a state. Right now, as you sit there, bring your Awareness to the present moment. Stop resisting the present moment and be fully here. Notice your surroundings. Notice the room you are in. Take a few deep breathes. Acknowledge the present surroundings, the present objects, your body, your senses and everything that is going on here and now. As you stop resisting, you transcend whatever you were resisting. As you cease doing anything you will notice there is still a lot happening. Seeing, Hearing, Feeling, Thinking, Breathing, Swallowing, Sensing and a number of other things are happening. Become present of what is happening now as if it were the most important thing in the world.

Now bring your Awareness to the sounds you hear. Be aware of all the sounds. You might be hearing the sound your computer makes. You might be hearing the voices of others. Maybe birds and cars outside. Become very aware of sound. Notice how the mind labels or builds images or associations around every sound, as in "that is a bird", "thats the computer", "those are people". As you listen to the sound, try removing the label and association if you can. Remove any label and simply be aware of the sound itself, without any back-story. Even remove the label "sound". You are now more purely aware of sound, without any filtering going on. You may notice that this practice is deeply relaxing.

Now bring your awareness to the chair you are sitting on. Put your consciousness into the chair. Act as if the chair is the most important thing ever. Become one with the chair. See if you can pinpoint where the chair stops and your body begins or where the body stops and the chair begins. And be fully present with the chair. Next, retrieve any labels, ideas and associations you have about the chair. Find the state prior to labeling the chair. Be aware of the object as it is, without even calling it "chair". You will notice a shift in attitude, where your awareness is merely with energy rather than a physical object. Stay with the chair for awhile. See if you can be perfectly happy just sitting on that chair and feeling it, without the need to go anywhere, to do anything, without desire or resistance. Just you and the chair, minus the label "chair". Breathe softly. Breathe with and as the chair.

Next, bring awareness to your thoughts. Develop curiosity about the thought-process itself. Observing your thoughts right now, relax and just let your thoughts think whatever they want to think. Every person on planet earth doing this exercise will notice thoughts. Some thoughts will be nice. Some will be not so nice. Some will be neutral. Who is the witness of those thoughts?

Just like you did with the sounds and the chair, remove your resistance, labeling, pushing or pulling from those thoughts. So that you are no longer one who reacts to the thoughts but only one who witnesses them. The thoughts are then neither good, bad nor neutral, they are just thoughts coming and going. And even remove the label "thoughts" so that you are simply observing "something" but you have no prejudice as to what it is you are observing. Be pure awareness of thought. And remain like that for some time, maybe even several minutes before you continue to read.

You will have noticed that the mind has slowed down and your attention is beyond the narrow band of everyday concerns, appointments, expectations. You are a broader, more calm, wider, clearer version of yourself. You are no longer limited, contracted, constricted to some desire or resistance. You have peace of mind. From this "zero point" there are no intentions, no plans, no analysis, no efforts to get something, no efforts to avoid anything.

You will take a break from reading this and in a minute, stand up and walk to the other side of the room you are in in slow motion. Every movement you make, every step you take must be done in full awareness. You will notice that conscious standing, walking and moving or deliberate acting, will give you a sense of full control over your reality. So go ahead and walk to the other side of the room and back to your computer in full awareness and in slow motion. I`ll see you in a few minutes.

Welcome back. What does it feel like to be pure awareness? If you have been doing this correctly you feel more at ease and at the same time more powerful. More God-like because you control your starting, changing and stopping of things. That is the purpose of mindfulness, the purpose of Meditation, the idea of purposeful action.

Now bring awareness to objects in your room that you have never brought proper awareness to. Chose any object, say "Hello" to it and acknowledge its existence. Bring your awareness to it as if it were the most important thing in the world. Examine it. Lose yourself in that object. Go inside the object with your attention. You might intuitively sense that as you are truly connected with only ONE thing in the Universe, you are connected with everything in the universe. This full awareness can be brought into anything...a problem you wish to dissolve, a person you wish to improve communication with, a job you would like to improve. Things go wrong because people do not bring full awareness into them. If you have an accident, it was because awareness was missing. If you are short on money, it was because awareness and attention to detail was missing. Impatience is the ultimate lack of awareness. Give the object you are looking at some patience and be with it until your impatience recedes and you are fully and totally present.

Notice how the label of that object, the name of it, your opinions about it, information about it do not allow you to fully grasp the energy of it, do not allow you to get into this focused and light state you are currently in. So bring your full awareness to your body. Notice your body and feel it fully. And remove labels and identifications with the body and just sense what is really there. You are experiencing your body instead of intellectualizing about it, thinking about it, abstracting about it. The moment you are experiencing the here and now, all past and future fades away, and with that, all problems fade. I have said before that all worries and fears indicate lack of awareness. Fear and worry mean that you are identified with the content of your mind rather than slowing down and becoming mindful of what is going on.

Bring your awareness to the empty space around the body. Bring your awareness back to the body. And back to the empty space around the body. Where does one start and the other stop?

Bring your awareness to some painful memory or emotion. As with the other things, become intensely curious about it. Remove all labels, so that you are no longer judging it as "painful". Be aware of the energy itself. With a wide open mind, observe. You will notice that as you no longer push or pull the energy, it starts to develop and dissolve by itself, in the light of your awareness. Gently put your awareness away from this memory and notice something nice in your room, a picture for instance. Become aware of its details. Perceive things you have not noticed about it before (yes, it is possible to have a picture in your room since years and still have things you have not noticed about it - that's how blind one can become). As you perceive detail the world gets more beautiful.

Now finally, just be fully present, without any specific task of where to put awareness. When you are fully present you are not trying to assert yourself. You are not trying to make someone wrong. You are not analyzing or judging the situation. Presence is a peculiar state, not native to the normal physical-reality-earth state. You are not putting yourself down, not putting yourself up, you are just present. Being present does not mean being spaced-out or zoned-out. Thats dissociation (subtle resistance), not presence. A present person is naturally kind and loving...he/she is God-like.

If you enjoyed this Meditation you will also enjoy The Infinity Course.

Why dieting does not work and how to use the law of attraction for weight loss

2012-02-18T12:56:00.001+01:00

Reality Creation Coaching teaches that dieting causes overweight in the long run. Experts on nutrition, diet and weight all presuppose that dieting is the way to maintain ideal weight. This belief is taken as a given, without question. The only controversy is over what diet is the right one. But if you look at real life experience you will notice that dieters are the ones usually struggling with weight. And you might say "Well of course! Thats why they are dieters. Their struggle with weight has caused them to become dieters!". But I am saying that their dieting has caused them to struggle with weight even more. I am saying that if you become a dieter, you will struggle with weight for the rest of your life. I guess this is an "outrageous" statement to make, but if you looked at the real-life and long-term experience of people as carefully as I have, you may also find it to be true. If you are overweight then somewhere along the way, someone told you that you have to keep paying attention to food and weight, and you bought into this belief.

The country with the most books on dieting also has the most obese people. You might think that obesity caused all those books, but I am suggesting that all those books also caused obesity. From reality creation coaching I know that cause and effect is a two way street. Obesity causes books on dieting and books on dieting re-affirm and cause more obesity. This is, once again, the principle of attraction by which you get more and more of what you focus on.

Dieting causes more overweight is because it exerts resistance. One of my core teachings is that what you resist will persist. This holds especially true for food. In dieting you are conditioned to say "no" to eating, "no" to having sweets, "no" to hunger. This works fine for awhile, but in time it subtly draws your attention more and more into the things you are saying "no" to. Subconsciously and by law-of-attraction everything you are saying "no" to, you are actually saying "yes", because you are directing attention to it. Sitting in a room where there are some snacks and some beautiful paintings, any non-dieter would be focused on either the snacks, the paintings on something else, but the dieter would be subtly focused on the snacks because of all the importance he has given the subject of food. Thus it takes more and more willpower and energy to resist that which is seen as a "temptation". Its easier for a non-dieter to maintain good weight because they dont walk around preoccupied with food. The dieter is in the bizarre situation of needing energy to resist eating and then needing more food to get this energy.

If you examine dieters you can see how a diet works at first, as long as you stick to the rules imposed by the particular diet, be it TLC diet, atkins diet, weight watchers, DASH diet or any of the other thousand offers out there.The problem is that most of these diets cannot be upheld consistently, over long periods of time. Some of these methods require you to monitor yourself and what you eat and how many calories foods have every day. I dont know anyone who has the will to keep that up for the rest of their life. As soon as they stop monitoring themselves, their weight not only goes back to what it was before but often much higher than before because of all the suppressed/resisted energy that has accumulated over time. But this also contains a little hint on what a more effective diet would be: If you chose a method of monitoring yourself that is easy to maintain for the rest of your life, then you can keep ideal weight. If you chose to improve your weight gradually, in very small steps, over a long period of time, you can keep ideal weight without the backlash. Quick weight loss and radical change are not good because they deprive the body of energy. And since the "body never forgets" it will pay you back by putting on extra weight. So you have already learned the first secret of psycho-spiritual weight loss: Lose weight only very slowly, over several months. In this way you program a new vibratory frequency into your body and being without overwhelming your system. You more easily become accustomed to better weight. And you dont worry about fluctuations in weight, because you have given yourself plenty of time. You release the pressure (the resistance).

Another problem with dieting is that external rules override your inner sense of when you have had enough food. The body is perfectly equipped to tell you when to start and stop eating. But with all the dieting and all the schedules and rules, this inner sense gets lost. And the moment you break your own rules, you are left without guidance, including the intuitive and physical sense that you overrode for so long. Dieters are usually on an elevator all of their lives going up and down with their weight continually. They deprive themselves of and deny themselves the food they want and get a backlash later on when the pendulum of polarity swings to the other side and they ravage their fridges. People who diet have given up their own inner source and rely on external reality to guide them. Thus, they eat not because they are hungry but because its "time for dinner". Or they refuse eating not because they are not hungry but because the diet-plan tells them not to. Living by external rules is necessary only for people who have lost their connection to source. Thus I have just shared with you the second secret of maintaining ideal weight. And that is, cease external imposition, cease all dieting, cease all rules.

Listen to your heart when its talking to you. Feel your body and sense what it needs and what it doesnt. Also note that there is a big difference between being hungry and craving. Food craving comes from inner emptiness or emotional problems that should be addressed with releasing techniques. Emotional-Releasers have a much easier time keeping ideal weight without much extra effort. When you feel such cravings I recommend you do one of two things: Either sit down and breathe/feel into them. That means to put your attention into the areas of the body that are craving and to consciously feel and relax them. You will feel emotional charge lurking right behind those cravings. Those emotional charges release by feeling them. Being hungry on the other hand is a natural function of the body that should not be suppressed or overriden. Being hungry does not insist on sweets or an exaggerated amount of carbs (lower your carb-intake after 6 oclock, if possible. After 6 oclock the body winds down and does not need that many carbs). Hungriness is also happy with other foods than sweets.

The other method to deal with cravings is to tell yourself "Alright, I will have sweets (or whatever you are craving) to eat, but a little later". This is the third secret of psycho-spiritual weight loss. With the way this thought is phrased you are neither exerting strong desire ("I will have sweets now!") nor Resistance/Denial ("I wont have sweets at all"). You are saying yes to sweets, but "a little later if I still want them then". In saying "yes" to sweets you are tricking the mind into non-resistance. As it imagines eating sweets, it already relaxes some of its craving. Having something to look forward to keeps it calm. So if you are serious about losing weight you must condition yourself to think not in terms of "Yes" or "No" but rather "Yes, later". Delay of gratification works better than denial of gratification. Denial will most certainly backfire. This is the core reason that dieters are just getting fatter and fatter with each decade.

To repeat the first three principles:

* Aim to lose weight slowly over a long period of time, realistically and gradually.

* Give up dieting and resistance and eating by external cues.

* Instead of saying "Yes" or "No" to cravings, say "Yes, later".

The fourth principle of weight-loss is self-respect or love. The cycle of failure for dieters usually looks something lime this:

a) Intend not to eat sweets

b) Upholds intention with utmost willpower

c) Has a relapse and eats sweets

d) Because of this one relapse, says "Ah, what the hell" and eats even more

e) Gives up the intention entirely

The two mistakes made are in a) and d). The first mistake, in a) is to state an intention or goal based on resistance. "I will eat no sweets" is a resistance-goal that can only be upheld with a lot of willpower/energy.

The second mistake d) comes from a lack of self-respect. People who respect themselves, say "Alright, you had one relapse, but thats alright. You are forgiven. Now back to my intention". People who do not respect themselves put themselves down for having a relapse. And as they put themselves down they lose more energy and then give up entirely. You can have a relapse either be a reminder of the goal or a reason to give up. Its your choice. Here is a better way to go about the whole thing:

a) Intend to maintain "OK" weight over a long period of time, without dieting or too much effort

b) Practice a little self-control and awareness but dont overdo it

c) Make an intention of how you would prefer to react to relapses and temptations (instead of placing the intention never to eat sweets again, visualize how you want to react and behave in specific situations)

d) If a relapse occurs, forgive yourself and enjoy the food. Continue with your intention after the relapse

c) Instead of radical and quick change to the better and then to the worse, enjoy the fruits of long-term commitment.

Another reason the long-term view is beneficial is because it teaches you to love yourself as you are. You need to accept yourself as you are rather than trying to force yourself to be like the covers of magazines. Its good to have good looking role models as long as it does not turn into self-criticism if you cant immediately meet those standards. Being fat does not necessarily mean you are weak, it primarily means that you dont understand how the law-of-attraction works. The "law of attraction" as taught in movies such as "The Secret" and numerous bestselling books is watered-down to the point of being dishonest. The law of attraction works as follows: If is much easier to maintain weight if you are already slim. But if you are not slim, you will have to invest plenty of conscious effort into it. That includes what was already discussed here but it can also include body movement, working out or sports. As you workout, you build a stronger belief. All physical action builds belief. In doing so, it will be easier to visualize that you are losing weight and to respect yourself. So do not assume that you have to become like the woman in the picture above without effort. That is setting an unrealistic goal and is sure to set you up for disappointment and even greater weight.

To repeat lessons 4-6:

* Respect yourself and dont allow relapse to turn into giving up.

* Rather than setting unrealistic goals, set specific intentions or visualizations for how to react in certain situations (such as at a party that has a bunch of snacks, or when you relapse)

* Add physical movement and the joy of being a physical being to the mix. But again, do not overdo it, that will only backlash into the opposite. Chose a program you can follow for years, not a program that is so difficult you will only follow it for a few weeks.

You cannot win with resistance. Everything that reduces resistance and strengthens belief is helpful. Goals that are too high, dieting, overstraining, unforgiveness, living by external cues, suppressing emotions as well as denial of gratification (rather than delay of gratification) build resistance. Gradual improvement, realistic goals, no external rules and diets, self-respect, following your inner sense and a little self-control and physical action as well as emotional clearing release resistance and get you back to the state of flow that is normal to people who never began getting concerned about food and weight in the first place. And by the way: Similar applies to other areas of life.

If you have been able to maintain ideal weight over long periods of time (after having been overweight) or if you have gained benefit from what was described here, please comment on this article and share your experience. Also recommend this article far and wide and help your fellow humans create the reality they prefer.

Upcoming Reality Creation Courses

2012-02-16T12:00:00.001+01:00

There are two upcoming Reality Creation Live Courses.

The first course will be 6-8 April 2012 in Germany. Details of the Course location will be given to registrants. A German-Language description can be found here. You may sign up for the Course by sending me an email or using the payment-button at the page linked.

If you are interested in participation but not sure yet, you can still make a reservation for a space in the course. You will then be notified by when you have to register. To make a reservation send me an email saying "reserve a place for me in the Course".

The Live-Course in Los Angeles from 22-24 of April 2012 will take place in Studio City, Decente Drive. Book your Hotel near there. Address Details will be given to registered participants. We will be in this building:

To register send an email to me (using the Contact Form on this site) saying "I`d like to participate!". You can pay your course fee in cash at the start of the course, or pay online using the paypal-button here:

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Loving Kindness Meditation

2012-02-15T16:10:00.000+01:00

The "Loving Kindness Meditation" has its origins in Buddhism. It will improve your own state as well as that of others by remote energy transfer. To practice this Meditation, you sit down, close your eyes and take a few deep breaths to calm down and center yourself.

You begin by putting your attention on a beloved saint, sage, mentor, higher self, higher power or Supreme Being and sending your thanks and love in that direction.

You proceed by putting your attention on a person you love, such as your spouse or child, and sending them well-wishes, compassion, understanding and loving kindness.

Now that you are in the flow of the exercise, you put your attention on someone you feel neutral about or someone you don't know personally, such as a vendor in some shop or a neighbor. Flow well-wishes, compassion, understanding and loving kindness to them.

Next you put your attention on an enemy or someone you do not like or have been having trouble with. As best you can, you flow well-wishes, compassion, understanding and loving kindness to them. Understand that if someone did you wrong, it is because they were suffering. So wish them well.

Finally, you flow loving kindness in all directions (north, south, west, east) and to anyone indiscriminately.
Instead of looking for love, become the source of love.

I have recorded an extended guided Audio-Meditation version of this process which you can request for free if you own the Bliss Course or Infinity Course. Simply send me an email with the subject line "Loving Kindness Meditation". I have also updated both Courses with this process.

Atlantis and the Garden of Eden

2012-02-13T16:41:00.001+01:00

Taken from the upcoming book "Journeys in Spectral Consciousness" (September 2012)

In my opinion based upon research, this planets level of consciousness was significantly higher around 12 000 years ago and then experienced a steep drop from which it is only starting to recover since a few hundred years.

If we combine and piece-together the Bible, the Quran, the Vedas, the apocryphal Books of Enoch, Greek and Egyptian Mythology and several other ancient writings it becomes clearer what happened such a long time ago. These books talk of a place called "Garden of Eden", "Isles of Fortitude", "Elysium", "Paradise", "Atlantis" or the "The Pure Land". My research leads me to to believe all these names are referring to the same place. It is my opinion that this paradise was a physical place before the "great flood" occurred and is now a non-physical place on a higher level of energy and consciousness. After the flood, that swept away or destroyed "Atlantis", the place was disconnected from earth and placed into a Higher Realm. Previous to that, Heaven had been on Earth. The details of how and why this happened vary. Islam as well as the jewish "Books of Enoch" say that the "Garden of Eden" was separated from earth and put into a "higher Heaven". The Bible says that humans were thrown out of the garden of Eden after having sinned (or descended in energy-level). Greek, Egyptian and Celtic mythology speaks of a paradise "out in the western ocean" that was sunken after a great flood and now is no longer found in the "western ocean" but rather in the afterlife. Among the many religious denominations there has been controversy to whether paradise is a physical or a non-physical place. The reason for this, in my view, is that it was once a physical place but is now a non-physical one. According to chinese mythology, the gods became angry and titled the earths axis to flood the whole planet and destroy a humanity that had become rotten. Similar pre- and post-flood myths can be found across the globe. And despite all the differences in detail, all ancient accounts agree that there was a major shift for the worse, after a flood and a "long, long time ago". Some pre-columbian mythology places paradise in the east rather than the west. Why? Because from their viewpoint, Atlantis, which I believe was in the atlantic ocean, lies in the east.

The History of our planet is not too difficult to understand if one is willing to combine various religions as well as scientific studies instead of segregate and compartmentalize knowledge. Science, Religion and Philosophy have been separated. Religions have been separated. But combined, they give a very clear picture of the history of the world and the purpose of mankind. Paradise is still available, but on a higher level and realm of consciousness. Maybe some day we will bring down Heaven on Earth again, but until then it is us that have to ascend to the "land of milk and honey" as the ancients called it, to the place of Bliss.

Free Coaching: Reality Creation Conference Call

2012-02-12T23:03:00.002+01:00

The next Reality Creation Conference Call will be on Saturday 18th of February 2012 at 10 a.m. NYC time (3 p.m. in London, 4 p.m. in Berlin, 7 a.m. Los Angeles).

Attendance is FREE for all participants of the Bliss Course, or Reality Creation Course (Conference calls for Participants of "The Infinity Course" will be given at other dates). The Language of the Conference Call is English.

The purpose of the Conference call is to

* Help you apply the Bliss Course or Reality Creation Course to your specific situations
* To listen in to live Coaching-Sessions
* To interact with others

We will spend 2 hours together with talks and guided Meditations. To respect the privacy of the participants, you will not be able to record the Session. Your participation is anonymous in that you will only be providing your first name. I will limit the number of participants so that our 2 hours are used efficiently. If you want to participate, please think about a subject you would like me to work on - conference calls are the most fun, if we have some of your specific topics to work on. Any subject in which you want an improvement is good for the Session.

To participate you need Skype, which is an Internet-Telephone. To register for the Free Conference Call, send me your Skype name and Skype Text-Message "Add me for the Conference Call on the 18th of February". My Skype Name is RealityCreation. (Do not send a request to participate if you do not own the Bliss Course or Reality Creation Course. I do the Conference Calls only for those who have learned the basics contained in those Audio-Programs). The Conference Call is your opportunity to get free coaching.

I look forward to a nice Session!

Fred

Willpower Works 11: The value of repetition and practice

2012-02-11T11:16:00.000+01:00

They say that "repetition is the mother of skill", and that "practice makes perfect". These are universal truths that apply for anyone anywhere. Reality Creation teaches that what you focus on becomes more and more real. One of the primary ways to focus attention is through repetition. Your reality is not shaped by what you do sometimes. It is not shaped by what you do now and then. It is shaped by what you do consistently, on a regular basis. If you have low energy and willpower, you will find it tedious or impossible to repeat various skills. But if you do have the energy, you`ll enjoy any sort of drill. On the other hand, by repetition and practice, whatever you place your focus on, becomes easier and begins taking less energy and less willpower to sustain. This goes for anything at all - playing the piano, playing tennis, visualization, dream exploration, wine tasting, writing, physical exercise, life success, health, romance, communication, playing poker, attending school - anything at all. Often, you go through the following phases as you repeat a skill:

Phase 1: Initial resistance. Having to overcome and discipline yourself to "go there" or "do it". In Phase 1 there are always plenty of ideas about just giving up.

Phase 2: You can do it, but there is still a lot of effort required and you are not as skilled as others who have been doing it longer.

Phase 3: Sometimes you enjoy it, sometimes you dont.

Phase 4: You have fully embraced it and made it part of yourself. You very much look forward to doing it and even miss it when it is not there.

Phase 5: Doing it has become an effortless and natural part of your life.

Whatever you can dream of learning, you can learn it through repetition. Time and attention will break through almost any limitation you apply them to.

Peace of Mind

2012-02-09T10:43:00.000+01:00

Peace of mind is more valuable than all the treasures in the world. The following checklist will help you rapidly regain serenity.

* Make sure you are not trying to solve all issues at once but moving forward in a calm pace, one step at a time. Instead of scattering attention, slow down and focus on one thing, one object (literally looking at one object for a few minutes), one task, one anything.

* List the criticism you have been consciously and subconsciously lashing out on others and yourself and deliberately decide to let go of each point for now. Stop wasting your energy on heavy thoughts.

* If something will not still be important in 100 years, how important is it really? Check what is really important and what you can really control, and focus on that. Let go of things that are not important and let go of things you cannot control. If for example you have a big life vision that you cannot do anything immediate about, focus instead on the next-action-step you CAN do something about. The more you focus on things you CAN do something about, the more in-control and zestful you feel.

* Simplify your life in every way you can. Streamline and automate that which can be automated. Cut your hobbies, cut your costs, cut anything superfluous so that you have more time for what life is essentially about: Your connection to other human beings, friends and family. Bring simplicity and ease into your Business processes, so that you have more free attention for the essential things.

* Remember that it is alright to feel down sometimes, do not berate yourself for it. On the other hand, also remember that it is alright to feel happy on a regular basis, for no reason at all.

* Before demanding that the circumstances adapt to you, first accept the circumstances as-they-are. Then, you will (paradoxically) be in a stronger position to shape the circumstances. "Play the cards you were dealt".

* Check if today you can be of benefit to others. Being of benefit to others increases health, happiness and prosperity. But before going out to be helpful to others, see to it that you are in a good state.

* Restore your integrity in any way possible. Do not verbally say "yes" to things you inwardly say "no" to. Stand up and state your true hearts opinion. Own and take responsibility for what you experience. Keep your word.

* Do a good deed without telling anyone.

* Voice words, affirmations, statements, intentions and prayers that are positive and empowering to yourself and others. Ask to think clearly, see clearly, speak clearly, act clearly. Make this a habit.

* Give yourself good and life-affirming material to listen to or read.

* Take a (sound and lawful) activity that you think you have to do but resist or have a real problem doing and try doing it anyway while releasing your resistance and embracing the activity. That is, do not let that activity dominate your emotions.

* Write up some intentions and actions for this month. Also take care of things you have been procrastinating about. Keep in mind that monthly intention-lists or plans work better than weekly or daily ones as they generalize and release pressure from the process.

* If there is something you have been trying to fix unsuccessfully, then monitor it for awhile. For weight loss, for example, monitor (write down) your eating habits. For financial improvement, monitor your expenses and income. Monitoring things brings Awareness into them. Awareness is the key to all improvement.

* Sit and do nothing for 10 minutes today. Center yourself, before acting and deciding.

* Let go of repetitive thinking. Notice a thought that has been bothering you, breathe it in and on the out breathe simply let go of it.

* Assess the truth of things by looking at its fruits. What kind of people and culture is produced by any given teaching or philosophy?

* Let go of seeking more information, instead try to experience some of the things you already know.

* Whenever you have lost peace of mind, simply return to this checklist. The solution will be contained in one of its points.

Reactiveness vs. Attentiveness

2012-02-07T12:40:00.000+01:00

Using negative motivation to reach goals

2012-02-05T04:12:00.002+01:00

Goal-Achievement is often thought of as being driven by positive thinking and positive emotions, but negative motivation also works. You dont only have the carrot, you also have the stick. I've applied this method with myself and my students every now and then. It often begins as a way I test the resolve and belief of someone stating a goal. So someone might say:

"I`m going to graduate"

"I`m going to double my income"

"I`m going to learn dancing"

"I`m going to quit smoking"

"I`m going to ask this person out on a date"

or any other goal, and I`ll say "Alright. Do you really believe that?" and they`ll mostly say "Yes". And then I`ll say:

"Well, if you really believe that, then you`d be willing to be severely punished by me if it doesn't happen?"

And more times than not I`ll get an odd look from them. Some might say "Well, I don't need that kind of motivation, I can achieve it without threats of punishment". And I respond:

"Yes, but if you are 100% sure it will happen, there is nothing to worry about"

With those who are willing to try it, I make a "contract of commitment" where they write out what punishment they will take upon themselves if they do not achieve the goal in a pre-defined period of time. The punishment has to be strong enough. All human action is driven by pain or pleasure. Reaching the goal is linked with pleasure, not reaching it is linked with pain. Some recent examples:

"If I do not reach my goal by this time...

...I will transfer you $500.

...you will send a nude-video of me to all my co-employees, families and friends (email addresses are supplied beforehand and the video is shot on the same day)

...I will have to spend the night alone in the woods

...I, not my spouse, will have to do all the dish washing for one year

...I will have to give away my best suit

...I will be disconnected from the Internet for 1 month

The stronger the punishment, the more likely it is that you will actually reach the goal you set out to do. This is actually an ideal tool to measure whether someone really believes in their goals. If they really believe, then they`ll have no problem committing. If on the other hand they hesitate, you are dealing with someone who only pretends to believe but is not really dedicated to the creation of a new reality. The success rate of this method has been 80% goals reached.

Loving to Play

2012-02-04T10:04:00.000+01:00

"We dont stop playing because we grow old, we grow old because we stop playing".

Playing games teaches your body/mind everything there is to know about life. Just like any board or sports game, the game of life has pre-set rules and boundaries. Within those rules and boundaries you are free to decide to do whatever you want. To make it more exciting, there are a lot of different rule books, some of them full of misinformation. Some seem to arrive on earth already blessed with a talent at the game. Some struggle. Proficiency at the game is at very many levels.

If you have the idea that life is serious and extremely stressful, let go of it now and embrace life as a game. Instead of demanding that the game be this or that way, strive to get better at playing it. Instead of suggesting that the game is a conspiracy, improve your game skill. Losing a few rounds is not the problem. The question is how you deal with losing. The game already exists. You wake up into it every day. How are you going to deal with it?

Any type of teaching, course, seminar, instruction without playfulness or game is not teaching anything. I play ball games, board games and activity games in many of my courses. Most people respond to them well, saying "Wow...I havent played in such a long time, I was really missing that". Why do so many stop playing when they grow up? Because they forgot that life is a game and that life can be played. Ask yourself whether you are a piece on the board or the player of that piece, whether you are body or spirit, whether you are narrow view or birds-eye-view.

A small number of people are so far removed from play that they would not even understand the point of playing games in a workshop context. The way people deal with the games, is also the way they deal with life in general. Some dont want to play the game. Some are terrified to play it. Some are eager to play it. Some play it with ease. Some of chosen the wrong game to play, some have chosen the game that is just right for them.

In secret, I would like to conduct the entirety of my courses with playing games only. Maybe some day I will. Whether they realize it or not, what people really want is to test their skills and master their skills through practice. What they really want is to laugh and have fun with others. What they really want is to play.

The lesson here is that the next time someone invites you to play, do not reject it because you think its a waste of time. Play is what your very soul came here for. Go have some fun.

Jim Carrey on Intention, Consciousness and Reality Creation

2012-02-03T12:36:00.000+01:00

Willpower Works 10: More Ways to Increase Willpower

2012-01-31T16:49:00.000+01:00

Related Article: Factors that Increase Willpower

One way to increase your overall Willpower (and thereby state of energy and Aliveness) is by deliberately changing your habits and behavioral patterns. The following examples of behavior may have nothing at all to do with your goals but any of them will nevertheless benefit your goals because as you change one thing in your life, that spills over to other areas in your life. The popular notion that if you do one good thing you are more likely to do some non-good thing because, for example doing physical workout and then being more likely to treat yourself to a chocolate cake because you "deserve it" has not proven true in my 15 years of coaching. On the contrary, one good deed makes it more likely that you do other good deeds. Like attracts like.

Falling back on old patterns only happens if you lose momentum. One woman, who is a professional national-team basketball player told me that if she fails to exercise for a few weeks, that also attracts other habits she would rather not have - such as not cleaning up her place or eating more sweets. (As mentioned previously sweets do nothing for your willpower. They give you a quick high and then flatten you soon afterwards.). If however she keeps up her regular exercise, this also facilitates other good behaviors, such as not lashing out at her children or keeping a good financial balance. I can confirm that this is the way it works. Here are some examples of changing patterns, habits and routines:

1. Walk Backwards

In my early twenties I took the same way to work every day. I used this time to make several deliberate changes in my thinking and acting. One of the things I would do is walk backwards to work. This changed my habitual morning-thinking, which in turn made my day more creative.

2. Brush your teeth with the other hand

Why not switch the hands with which you brush your teeth? This quick behavioral shift demonstrates that you are not running your life on automatic but are yourself the creator of your experience.

3. Change your Posture

Try changing your body posture several times throughout the day. It will immediately transport you into the here and now, having you feel more aware and awake. Every deliberate act you do, trains your willpower.

4. Enjoy something you normally dont enjoy

Take something you resist, and try to enjoy it instead. There is no use resisting standing in a grocery store line. Why not thoroughly enjoy it next time? Do not be a victim of circumstance.

5. Change your speech patterns

If you have always used fillers such as "like" or "actually", why not try doing without them for a week? Small changes can create big things. Such a simple tool can turn your whole world upside down because you are actually beginning to pay attention to what is going on.

These were only five examples but we could surely come up with hundreds of ways to exercise willpower and awareness...which are the primary keys to success in life.

Where do people go after they die?

2012-01-31T13:53:00.000+01:00

This pie-chart is taken from my upcoming book "Journeys in Spectral Consciousness" (September 2012). In it you will read explanations of how I arrived at these figures and what the various levels mean and how they are accessed or transcended. The states of being are on a low-to-high scale (see "Levels of Energy") and could also be labelled differently ("Paradise" could also be labelled "Higher Realms" for example).

Miracle Story 14: The Flying Messengers

2012-01-31T10:46:00.003+01:00

This story was sent in by Steffen, constantchange08 (at) gmail.com. Thank you Steffen!

"In the spring of 2010 a friend handed me your book Parallel Universes of Self and since a long time I regained interest in spiritual practice.Meanwhile I started involving myself in the subject of lucid dreaming for the first time of my life, not knowing your work with dream worlds. Night after Night I was becoming more and more lucid without any particular exercise.I started remembering 3-5 dreams per night, recognizing dream figures.

The most fascinating figure were pigeons and birds in general. They always appeared when I noticed something was strange or when I knew that I had to change something. For example a white pigeon sat right on my left shoulder while fighting with my ex-girlfriend and suddenly everything became silent, almost stood still - the dreamscape became clearer, brighter and I knew "Something has to be changed"; I started laughing, went out of the room and stepped right into a wonderful garden full of white flowers...

Days after this dream I started crying in real life for no particular reason at all. Moments of energy flowing through my body like I've never experienced before, people complaining or fighting just seemed totally ridiculous; everything seemed beautiful in it's own "thing" - if that makes any grammatical sense.So I talked to a friend about the birds and my emotional state. He then said it reminded him of the movie "American Beauty" and a boy there running around with a video camera. I knew the movie but watched it again and indeed I felt a deep identification with this boy not noticed the first time. In a scene he almost put into words what I experienced... it was something like

"Sometimes there is just so much beauty that it's too much ...too much for me to take and I think I'm exploding".

Back in that state (which was coming and going for about 2 weeks) in awe of things around me, I took a camera and started walking. I was out for 3 hours noticing as many birds as I've never seen my entire life. It was not like "ok they were there before I just now directed attention to them", there were even 2 overrun pigeons in my street.

The next street there were 2 pigeons sitting on the roof of a car, I tried to catch them on photo but they flew away as I unpacked the camera. Same with a white pigeon landing on a little bridge right in front of me. I ended up in a street I did not know.It was in the evening and over the houses was a swarm of birds circling, it must have been 15 of them. And finally on my way home I looked through the window of the apartment of our lodger as his TV showed different kinds of birds- later I found out it was a documentary about parrots.

That had been the most astonishing walk of my life, energy pulsing, sunshine glittering...

Two months later I was at home telling a girlfriend the story and she replied

"This could be random, you know."

I stood up with the intention to bring light in the room - the shutters were still down. View of the garden, a short gaze at the swimming pool and there it was : Right in the middle of the pool, a black bird - just like it flew right into the water with a heart attack or something.I looked into the shocked eyes of my friend and said:

"This could be random, you know".

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Miracle Story 13: "Her picture in my wallet"

2012-01-29T19:12:00.001+01:00

This Miracle Story was sent to me by Marky, turbocapitalista@yahoo.de. Thank you for the interesting story!

"When I was 18 years old I used to collect photos of beautiful celebrity women in my wallet. Once I read a newspaper article about a contest called "Miss Italia in the World". I took the photo of the winner, her name was Bianca G. and put it into my wallet.

A week later I went to an Eros Ramazzotti concert (20 000 spectators). There I got to know a person who was born exactly the same year and day I was born. That was just the first amazing synchronicity.

Several minutes before the concert started I met a girl. She said, her name was Bianca. I responded " do you know that a girl called Bianca won the miss Italia competition?" She smiled and said "Yes, I heard about it"

At that time I did not realize that it was her. After several Eros songs she admitted that she was Bianca G.

"Miss Italia in the World". I showed her her photo I had in my wallet...."

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Level of Consciousness on Planet Earth

2012-01-27T19:17:00.002+01:00

Source: Book "Journeys in Spectral Consciousness", to be published in September 2012 by Frederick Dodson.

Miracle Story 12: "Till the End of Time"

2012-01-25T19:59:00.001+01:00

This story was sent by an email-coaching student who wishes to remain anonymous. Thanks for the great story!

"The last weeks have been tough because a lot of things have been going wrong in my Business. When I went to bed I was feeling restless and burdened. I closed my eyes and tried to calm down but couldnt. There was a weight on my chest. So I tried one of your exercises; I concentrated on friends and foes, wishing them well and sending them love and peace. Tears welled up in my eyes and some of the weight was released off my chest. I then did something uncharacteristic of me - I prayed. You write that I dont have to be religious to get prayers answered, so I thanked God for the people in my life and requested to be sent a nice dream for the night. Then I fell asleep and had one of the best dreams I can remember in a long time. The dream took me to my early teenage days and happy times I was having with a good friend. After that I somehow dreamed that I was meeting him in present time (our ways parted 15 years ago) and I ask him: "Remember our favorite song?" And we did remember it. We were around 13 or 14 when he bought an album called "Faith" by George Michael. Our favorite song from it was called "Father Figure" and together we sangt it in the dream. It went something like "I would be your Father Figure, put your tiny hand in mine, I would be your preacher, teacher, anything you had in mind, I would be your Father Figure, I have seen enough of crime, I would be the one who loves you, till the end of time." We kept singing it and I woke up with the song in my head. Suddenly it became clear to me that the song was an answer to my prayer. I had not prayed in years and had not dreamed that nicely in a long time and the dream was telling me that I not only have a good friend that I had forgotten about but that he was also a "Father Figure", a Preacher and Teacher and that he would love me until the end of time. Today I feel more awake. I havent felt like this in a long time. Stuff in my job seems to be sorting itself out. And if this wasnt miracle enough - get this - the song played in the Radio while I was getting groceries. How likely is that? I think its a song from the 80s and today, in 2011 it just happens to be playing after I turn on the radio. The instant it started playing I knew I had to write it down and send it in for your miracle-story collection.

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Willpower Works 9: Free Will vs. Destiny

2012-01-23T13:38:00.000+01:00

Is your life pre-destined or created by free-will? 20 years of psycho-spiritual counseling, intense research and dedication have lead me to believe that much of your life can be created by yourself and then some of it is pre-destined. There are those who believe everything is free will and those who believe everything is pre-destined and then there are those who believe everything is random. My own research agrees with neither of these stances and the reason there is so much ongoing debate and controversy around the subject is because each is true to some extent. I have summarized my own view of the influence of "Destiny", "Free Will" and "Randomness" in this pie chart:

I believe you can shape at least 65% of your reality through the choices you make and what you focus on in thought, word and deed. This however is the potential you have. Realistically, most people use their free will for around 10% of their reality and leave the rest up to destiny, karma and randomness. About 30% of life on earth seems not to be in your power but influenced by higher forces. Perhaps these 30% are your karma at work (positive or negative past life karma that you have accumulated). Maybe it is your soul/higher self at work, that has pre-defined a certain path in life that you cannot stray from. These pre-defined soul paths are usually very general though. They pre-define that you will not become a famous basketball player because your body is simply too short, or that you will grow up in a well-off household, etc. What you make of the pre-defined path is up to your free will. The remaining 30% may also be due to pre-programming by Source/Creator/God, as if to say "OK, the purpose of this soul is X, what this soul makes of it is their free choice". About 5% of events in ones reality appear to be random or of unknown causes. This is as if the creative intelligence behind realility introduced some randomness "just for fun".

This is reflected in many of the games (boardgames, sports games, computer games) we play on earth. A part of those games are pre-determined (such as the game rules, the field size, the skills), a small part seems random and a large part is determined by ones own choices, moves, imagination and willpower.

Please keep in mind that I may be wrong about the ratio of the three factors and also that very many bright minds will disagree with me one way or the other. There are scientists out there trying to prove that we have zero free will. There are also metaphysicians out there trying to prove that everything is 100% created by you. I publish this pie chart so that you can start thinking about the ratio yourself and check for yourself what is true.

My view is that, of your own power, you can fix around 65% of all issues in your life. For the remaining 35% it is not certain whether they will be fixed or not. In this case you either accept them (play the cards you were dealt) or request higher-source (divine will) support.

See Also: The Reality Creation Course

Willpower Works 8: The pro-active mindset

2012-01-23T12:32:00.000+01:00

Having or lacking energy can be observed in how pro-active people are. The fact that most people lack a sense of self-determination can be witnessed in any scenario:

Example 1: Language Learning

In Language Courses you can see how 80% of language-learners prefer the teacher to give examples of using new vocabulary, to make sentences with new vocabulary and to put them to use. Only around 20% try to create their own phrases and sentences and examples of newly learned words. Doing so does require energy of course. Once students are prompted by the teacher to create their own examples, at least 60% start pro-actively making sentences with 40% still "waiting for something to happen". If they have a teacher that has too much Ego and exerts too much of their own will (a teacher that does too much of the talking), this may further reduce the students efforts. It is not really possible to learn a full language without your own speaking and sentence-making efforts and yet plenty hope it is. They hope a language can be learned without any effort at all. While there are methods to reduce effort, such as deep relaxation, picture-learning and intuitive learning, you cannot really learn a language without some energy coming from yourself.

Example 2: Maintaining Relationships

Its easy to be kind and friendly when your partner is also kind and friendly. But it could require a little pro-active willpower or at least a deliberate intention to stay kind and friendly when your partner is in a really bad mood. And it could require a little more deliberate awareness to stay kind and friendly when your partner is openly criticizing you. Most relationships break up due to energy-exhaustion of the two involved.
Most fights that happen, only happen because one or both of the partners are tired. If you have the energy and have built positive momentum, you can literally maintain a relationship forever. If you have been in a relationship for a long time, it may take some effort not to take the other person for granted but perceive them with fresh eyes, be there for them, and generate some interest. But once you have invested just a little pro-active effort your relationship can go on effortlessly for another few years. The point I am making is: Every time things begin to slide downwards, its time to regain some self-determination and control over your life again, before going back to the effortlessness of auto-pilot. And I`ll share a little secret here: Any relationship, with anyone at all, can be positively maintained with your loving attention to it and them and yourself. If you are clear and cleaned-up within yourself, almost any partner is the right one and any relationship carries the potential for mutual growth.

Example 3: Professional Life

Anytime you find yourself waiting for something to happen or waiting for better times to come or waiting for an offer or a customer or money, you are in reactive mode. Self-determination, fueled by personal will, does not wait for something better to happen. It goes into focused and inspired action today, making dozens of decisions in a day, finishing dozens of instances of procrastination, initiating new ideas and approaches. If you feel unable to do that, review previous articles on how to accumulate more energy and willpower. Life is on hold as long as you are on hold. Life starts moving again, once you start moving. Nothing happens to you, everything happens through you. In a previous article we have already seen how making decisions can deplete energy. But once you get into the habit of it, it no longer depletes willpower but rather gives you energy. You are then in a state of Flow regarding decision-making and action. If things seem to be on hold in your life, I recommend you go on a "Rampage of Action" by getting done more in one day than you got done the entire previous month. After such a Rampage you will be tired when going to bed. But it will be the kind of tiredness that feels really, really good and creates a deep and restful sleep.

Example 4: This website

Through my own energy and will, I have been able to write a thousand articles in a fairly short time and publish them here and elsewhere. Frequently people ask me how I do it and I tell them its just "Flow", something I have invested so much willpower into, that it is now completely effortless to write. I sometimes forget that its not that easy for most people to write. This was brought home to me recently, while asking for people to write and submit "Miracle Stories" for this website. Of the 5000 visitors this website gets each month, I only received about half a dozen submissions of "Miracle Stories". And while reading and consuming information (especially spiritually helpful information) is well and good, and also requires some concentration (willpower), its a little more powerful to write articles of your own. Granted, it requires more energy, but what you put out is what you get back. The idea that if you invest energy into something it is energy (time, money or attention) spent, may seem accurate, but from a metaphysical standpoint it is flawed. Everything you give actually comes back to you and usually manyfold.

New Book: Soccer Magic

2012-01-22T12:28:00.001+01:00

I wrote this book for the very narrow target-group of professional soccer players and coaches because I am a fan of European Soccer/Football, love to play soccer in my free time and once had the honor to coach a professional soccer team over a period of one Season to higher success. This book summarizes my view of the spiritual and psychological components of high-performance in sports. While it is aimed at soccer players, athletes in general and people in general may also gain interesting and uniquely effective insights from it. Click Here to see it at Amazon.

Willpower Works 7: Personal Will and Divine Will

2012-01-21T11:40:00.002+01:00

In The Reality Creation Technique I differentiate between Personal Will and Divine Will, saying that when one has reached the limits of Personal Will, one should surrender to Divine Will. Divine Will is the force behind the many Miracle Stories posted on this website.

Recognizing only personal will without the larger context of Divine Will leads to arrogance and ultimately to humiliation once you realize you are powerful but not all-powerful. One of the people who gave Willpower a really bad name in the 20th Century was Adolf Hitler and also Fascism in general. The Nazis most famous propaganda movie was called "Triumph of the Will". Fascists and Nazis were aware of the power of Will and they displayed it in grandiose architecture, military machinery and athletic superiority. The Nazis strove for a superhuman state, a kind of yogic purity, which included supposedly "cultural, ethnical and racial purity". Fascism is what happens when personal Will is aggrandized and put above Divine Will. Divine Source is then replaced with a political figure to worship, such as Adolf Hitler. Hitlers arrogance was further fueled by drug abuse as well as the influence of negative-vibe discarnate entities, in my opinion.

Because of the horrifying disasters that human Willpower has caused throughout History, all the way from the destruction of Atlantis to World War II, humans have become afraid of their power. They are afraid of their power because of the harm and damage it can cause. This is why hundreds of textbooks throughout History contain reference to "thy Will be done" rather than "my Will be done". Once the Ego-Self finds out how it can create its own reality its not much longer until it finds out how it can create mass-reality through willpower. If that Ego-Self is not grounded in love, humility and kindness, its raw willpower is often destructive instead of creative.

The information contained in the RC Course and on this website gradually increase your powers over time.
Your personal will is capable of much, much, much more than most of you assume. But this personal will also has limits and can also have adverse effects if not balanced out with the idea of Surrender to a Higher Context. So train your will to its outermost limits, use it for the good but dont forget to request higher guidance in all your endeavors.

Deep Silence of Mind

2012-01-21T09:36:00.002+01:00

I teach Meditation because Deep silence of Mind is the basis of many different states of well-being. But even if you are too lazy to meditate (which most people are), there are a few facts I can tell you which will calm even the mind of the non-Meditator. These facts are:

* You actually know nothing. You need presume no reliable knowledge of anything at all. The "know-nothing" state is an attitude you can enter, from which the mind naturally calms down and you come from a space of spontaneity. Many times one is able to help people effectively, because you know nothing about their issues and do not share their History and Beliefs. If I know nothing, I can allow Intuition to guide things. Or I can say "I have no clue what any of this means, dear Higher Self/God, please reveal what it means to me". This kind of surrender and letting go has a calming effect (if it is not misused to give up self-reliance).

* Resist nothing. Another way to say this is "Say Yes to Everything". No, I don't mean externally and verbally. I mean inwardly. Inside, embrace and welcome anything and everything that happens in the here/now. Even if you are saying "No" to someone externally/verbally, say "Yes" to them inside. You see, most people say "Yes" outside while they really mean "No" inside. I am recommending you say "Yes" inside, no matter what. As you embrace everything that happens you live from the implication that everything that happens is supposed to happen...that the Universe is perfect. And for you it will turn perfect. Say "Yes" to the here-now, the present moment. Know that every time you lose the here-now, you are already back in the here-now. Every time you realize you lost Awareness, you are back to Awareness. To resist nothing does not mean to no longer discern between positive and negative, but to welcome the positive as your souls joy and the negative as a stepping stone on the path of life.

* Realize that the content of the mind is just not that important. The mind is like a TV-set that just babbles on whatever it was told throughout life. Its a phantasmagoria. Its a recording-device. If you dont believe that its not-you, try this: Right after waking up, in that very split second, ask what your name is. Or have someone ask you. You will notice a completely blank mind, without a clue of what your name is. Only then does the mind begin to switch on, creating all types of definitions of who you are. You are not your memories either. Memories are mind-content. In lower and higher states of consciousness and energy, a human experiences memory gaps and memory loss...proving that ones "memory" is only valid in a limited strata of being. Your entire thinking-apparatus is impersonal, like hair growing. Do not give it more importance than that, and it will calm down naturally. You juice it by thinking its "you" and its "important". If you stop flooding it with stimuli and importance and misemotion, it calms down.

* Heed the recommendations of the London Subway system that keeps saying "Mind the Gap", to draw attention to the empty space between the subway train and the platform. That is actually a great Mantra because Mind is indeed a Gap. If you look carefully you will notice that Mind is mostly silent, except when you pay attention to it. It may be more silent if you dont try to silence it in the first place. Maybe all these Meditation-Manuals are actually achieving the opposite of silencing the mind.

* Concentration calms the mind. You cannot control all thoughts all of the time. But you can concentrate on something, by which all mind-noise recedes. If you are laden with problems, check if you lack concentration...concentration for your work, for friends, for projects, for whatever. Deep silence of the mind can also be experienced when something grabs your attention in great fascination...such as beauty. Beauty can actually make the mind go still for awhile.

Here's an exercise: Take a walk through town or the countryside. Notice something. Keep your awareness there for half a minute or a minute, feeling and perceiving that thing, place, object, person, space, idea or plant. Then move on to the next thing, place, object, person, space, plant, idea. Continue for hours and start experiencing deep silence of mind. It will have you feel more high than any earthly substance.

See Also: The Bliss Course