Love replaces all books and workshops on Communication. If you are interested in others you appear to be interesting. Its smarter to give interest than to demand it. By being fully giving (without detriment to yourself and your time) you demonstrate that you are not captive of ego-concerns. Interest is especially important when dealing with people you do not naturally like. People like you, like you. So be sure to keep eye-contact and stay in a heart-to-heart connection with others. That should solve almost all communication issues. Communication also means expanding attention not only to another person but also to other fields of interest. If you can understand and talk about others fields of interest, then you have established flow with that person. If you are looking to improve your Communication with customers it might also be advisable to list their particular interests when you file their name in an address book to remember to bring them up in conversation.
Shyness in social situations is caused by too much attention/interest to yourself in an attempt to "look good". You can deliberately practice not needing to "make a good impression"...and then you will feel more natural and calm and paradoxically make a better impression.
If, by your interest, you can help others feel better about life, you have excelled at Communication. Normally, once we get something or someone, the exclusivity fades and we begin taking things and people for granted. If, by the power of your will, you can still treat people and things as special, your Communication flow with the world skyrockets. Let go of all past memories and judgements of the person and treat them well, looking at them with fresh here-and-now eyes. Make others a little more important while understating your own importance.
Of course all this assumes that you have the energy to give. If you lack energy, your interactions with others will be disharmonious. So it is important to retreat to your own silent space and relaxation regularly, to recharge, before venturing out into the world to "excel at Communication".
Of course all this assumes that you have the energy to give. If you lack energy, your interactions with others will be disharmonious. So it is important to retreat to your own silent space and relaxation regularly, to recharge, before venturing out into the world to "excel at Communication".
If you are selling something (and most humans are either selling a product, a service or themselves, no matter what their profession is ), your Communication must also include the demonstration of value of whatever you are selling. Make it real by demonstrating its use, listing as many reasons why your product, service, viewpoint is worth something. If you combine this with genuine interest in the person and first understanding their position, their product, their view, you have further boosted the flow of affinity.
Good Communication also involves saying what people often do not have the Courage to say. Many problems could have been avoided by simply communicating them. I recently coached someone who has been fired from all the jobs he has ever had and we discovered the primary reason for his being fired was a lack of communication. He saw problems but did not have the courage to stand up and point them out. Thus he was not contributing to the betterment of the companies he worked for. The natural consequence was that he got fired. Courage and Communication are primary factors of prosperity. Statistical Research indicates, for example, that more than 65% of all people who ask for a pay raise get a pay raise. If you never ask, it cannot be given.
Face-to-face connections are significantly more effective than phone and internet connections. Whether you are selling something or simply want to socialize, it is always better to put yourself out there and meet people in person. In a society of people hiding behind internet-monikers that can be quite a challenge. But in a world where people have become accustomed to emails over personal contact, showing up personally can give you the "market-advantage" you are looking for. To become a better communicator, work on the expressiveness of your voice, your eyes and your facial movements. Talking to yourself or higher self in the mirror or car can warm up your speech before important meetings.
To exercise your Courage, see if you can speak to at least one stranger a day for a 100 days in a row. That should overcome issues of awkwardness in social situations. If you look at the statistics of hospitals, statistics of illness and death-rates you will notice that lonely people tend to be worse off than people who connect (this applies to those who are not lonely deliberately, as in hermits or meditators). Connecting therefore, boosts your health and that of others.
To exercise your Courage, see if you can speak to at least one stranger a day for a 100 days in a row. That should overcome issues of awkwardness in social situations. If you look at the statistics of hospitals, statistics of illness and death-rates you will notice that lonely people tend to be worse off than people who connect (this applies to those who are not lonely deliberately, as in hermits or meditators). Connecting therefore, boosts your health and that of others.
Remember that people are easy to enchant. And you enchant them not by seeing them the way soul sees them: with fascination.
Last but not least, whenever you are in doubt or uncertainty with someone, communicate and connect. Don't let lack of communication denigrate the quality of your life. There are no "stupid questions" and there are no "stupid comments". Every human being is full of surprising answers to anything and everything.
Last but not least, whenever you are in doubt or uncertainty with someone, communicate and connect. Don't let lack of communication denigrate the quality of your life. There are no "stupid questions" and there are no "stupid comments". Every human being is full of surprising answers to anything and everything.
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